Have you ever set out to have a romantic evening and have it fall flat? Did you know that you have the power to transform any ordinary night into a deeply intense, knock-your-socks-off love extravaganza you’ve only read about in novels? All it takes is you, some patience and a mental shift!
Even though you love your partner, you may be self-sabotaging your romance by letting your own negative feelings seep in. Do you criticize your body, try to keep it hidden in the dark and under the covers or perform theatrically for your them instead of really being in the moment? If you do this, you’re taking the focus off of the experience and turning it into a production. You have inadvertently made yourself a checklist of things you must and must not do. Doesn’t sound very romantic, does it?
Relationships are ongoing conversations and experiences between partners. Love doesn’t always play out like a movie, and it takes communication before the event to make sure both partners are on the same page. If your relationship is great and there are no pressing problems in it, you should also examine your relationship with yourself to see if you need some self-care. Once you embrace this, you can work on deepening your mind-body connection and do a mental shift to enhancing your love life.
Meditating is one great way to establish an ongoing mind-body connection and really embrace your inner self. You can start by blocking out a time when you’ll have twenty minutes to yourself. It helps if you have a clear mind, so it might be a good idea to wake up twenty minutes earlier than you usually do to start your mediation practice with a blank slate.